Notes For the Everlost

Part memoir, part handbook for the heartbroken, this powerful, unsparing account oflosing a premature baby will speak to all who have been bereaved and are grieving,and offers inspiration on moving forward, gently integrating the loss into life.When Kate Inglis's twin boys were born prematurely, one survived and the otherdid not. This is the powerful, unsparing account of her experience, herbereavement, and ultimately how she was able to move forward and help otherparents who had experienced such profound loss. Inglis's story is a springboardthat can help other bereaved parents reflect on key aspects of the experience,such as emotional survival in the first year after loss; dealing with family, friends,and bystanders post-loss; the unique female state post-bereavement of shameand sorrow at "failing," or somehow not fulfilling your role; the importance ofcommunity; recognizing society's inability to deal with grief and loss; how lossbreeds compassion; coping with anniversaries; and beginning the work of"integration" (as opposed to "healing").